I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. Unfortunately, we live in a society that tends to define one’s strength by their ability to handle challenges and adversity alone without needing anyone. We tend to define vulnerability as weakness. We believe that emotional stoicism equates to emotional strength. However, feeling alone, isolated and disconnected with our thoughts, emotions, and experiences serves to only increase our suffering. The fact is it’s an act of courage for people to know when they need help and take the next step to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, counseling is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, and you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for counseling, it will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs. Let’s begin by having a conversation about what your goals are and what I can do to create the most comfortable environment for you to explore and address your goals.
How long will it take?
Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
Therapy can be a deeply transformational experience, albeit emotionally challenging at times. The most difficult part of therapy is making the decision and taking the first step to reach out. Showing up with willingness and openness to the process will be very helpful for you to experience the benefits. Sometimes showing up can feel very vulnerable and I am here to gently walk the path with you.